As I plucked up the courage to reveal one of my most intimate secrets, a fleeting thought came to mind – What if my divulge disappoints him?
At the time, my husband and I were just friends with no inkling that we would ever become romantically involved, therefore, there was no requirement for me to share anything personal, yet on this occasion, I felt compelled to.
As I shared what felt incredibly uncomfortable, unexpectedly, I was met with compassion. There was no judgement, but rather a comforting response of “I just wish I was there for you at the time.”
In marriage, or any serious relationship for that matter, the ability to be vulnerable is almost imperative. Though it might seem terrifying initially, when we open up to those we can trust, we pave the way for deeper connection. We enable darkness to be transformed into light, because what the enemy thought he could hold over us is set free in the process of reveal.
Adam and Eve were both naked and unashamed. Naturally, we understand this in the physical sense because we read that upon eating the forbidden fruit, they sewed fig leaves together to cover their bodies [Genesis 3:7], however I believe that in this context nakedness also represents openness.
In marriage, there is profound intimacy in baring all. It is the ability to express oneself without shame, trusting that the other person will not judge or ridicule.
Back then, the urge to share one truth felt slightly unusual, and as mentioned, extremely uncomfortable, yet unknowingly it set the foundation for transparency in our marriage. Although sometimes we find opening up difficult, through sharing, our bond deepens and our communication improves.
So, I encourage you today to be open to being vulnerable.
Thank You for the beautiful bond of marriage.
We pray for those on their premarital journey who may find it difficult to express themselves or open up to their partner. We ask that when the time is right, you provide them with the courage and desire to share. For those who have allowed themselves to be vulnerable, we pray that you encourage them to continue to do so and that you bless their future spouses with ears that are eager to listen and hearts overflowing with compassion.
In Jesus name,
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